4 Tips to Cultivate Confidence


This blog is typically for fitness and nutrition but lack of confidence is an issue that I think is holding a lot of people back from have success with weight loss or putting on muscle.

I’ve never met anyone that didn’t want to be confident.

We all want to be believe in ourselves.

However, somewhere along the road, life beats most people down and they never get to discover their true selves because they never developed the confidence that is necessary.

Without confidence, this life will not be kind to you.

You will self sabotage your endeavors because you don’t think you are capable of your big dreams in life.

You will let people run over you and accept less than you are worth.

And, worst of all, you will live an unfulfilled life because insecurities will steal your ability to be happy and present.

I don’t pretend to have it all figured out, but I did used to be extremely unconfident and found out what worked for me and I hope to relay that to you today.

When I was 18 I started my self development journey by picking up Napoleon Hill’s classic “Think and Grow Rich”

This book completely opened my eyes to the responsibility I had in paying attention to what thoughts I allowed myself to think.

Hill says “Every man is what he is because of the dominating thoughts which he permits to occupy his mind.”

This leads me to my first tip…


When I first read this book, I was still a very unconfident person. 

I was in college still trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life and

in a relationship that I was unhappy in and allowed to persist because I didn’t think enough of myself to go try to find better.

I read this book and started thinking about it’s application to my life and realized…

Your brain is a supercomputer and your thoughts are the code you are writing into it.

And so far, I had written a lot of low-quality code to say the least.

You can’t talk to yourself poorly and expect good results.

Your brain has no idea what is real and what is not. 

It just has the responsibility to try to prove you right.

It is called confirmation bias.

So if you tell it things like “My life is amazing. I am surrounded by love. I am healthy. I am wealthy.”…

Your brain will go looking for evidence of love and health and wealth in your life.

That is why I picked the classic Michael Jordan SNL affirmation skit for my artwork at the top of this blog.

It was a hilarious skit, but I promise you all the most confident people are hyping themselves up all the time, even if it is out of arrogance.

However, most people do not feed their brain empowering words.

A lot of that has to do with the people they are surrounded with.

That brings me to my next point


The people you spend time with have a tremendous impact on you.

There is an old saying that goes “Show me who your friends are and I’ll show you your future”

That is because they are feeding your brain as well.

Think of every thought, word you hear, song you listen to, or show you watch as a mental diet.

So if your friends like to constantly complain, they are holding you back.

Because just like your thoughts, the fears, insecurities, and doubt that they spew at you will filter its way in your brain and take its hold on you as well.

You must outgrow and move on from these people if you want to see yourself flourish.

It is a difficult part of life but absolutely necessary for growth.

Now that you have control of the things you are allowing into your brain, we’ve got to start showing ourselves some love.

I call this next point


All this means is count your wins.

For you to develop confidence, you must develop a track record of things you have accomplished or overcome.

So even if they are small wins, count them up and pat yourself on the back.

Don’t be afraid of challenges and obstacles in this life because they are opportunities to prove something to yourself.

Adversity is a gift.

Proving to yourself just how much you can handle gives you confidence for the next time you face similar struggles.

Whether it be beating cancer, going through a tough divorce, or finishing med school, give yourself some credit of just how great you are.

There is nothing wrong with being proud of yourself.

Lastly, you know I have to plug the gym…


I can speak very highly to this being one of the biggest reasons for me developing confidence in this life.

Taking control of you health and investing time and energy into being fit is one of the best ways you can spend your time, money, and energy.

Being in shape is empowering and demands respect because people know you can’t get lucky and be fit.

They know you can’t buy your health.

You have to do the work.

There is another hidden benefit of going to the gym because you are surrounded by other people working on themselves.

It motivates you.

It pushes you.

And at our gym, The Sportsplex, we take pride in building you up and attracting inspiring members to our gym.

You don’t get the glares you dread at other gyms here.

We truly have built an incredible gym and community and it just keeps getting better.

If you have aspirations of taking control of your health or just getting back after it after 2020 or whatever life events happened, I can assure you The Sportsplex is worth your time and money.

If you would like to try us out, we offer a week trial you can take us up on here.

Now go out there and take ownership and live you best life!